We had the good fortune of connecting with Patrina Smalls and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Patrina, can you walk us through the thought-process of starting your business?
My thought process behind starting my own coaching business was to provide a safe place for women like myself ages 40 and over to re-discover and in some cases discover their purpose. I meet so many women who sacrifice their dreams to be mothers and wives. Their first priority is supporting their husband and then focusing on the growth of their children, They put their life on pause for years. What happens when the children head off to college? What happens if the marriage does not work out?
Prophetic Sculpting Coaching was created so women can breath and invest in putting themselves first for a change with a support system. Starting my own business came very easy because this is not my first business and people have been asking me to Coach them for years. I wanted to educate myself to the best of my ability and gain as much knowledge as possible from a psychological standpoint so I enrolled into a Masters Program that taught me tools that I use to help women excel beyond anything they could have invisioned for themselves.
Alright, so for those in our community who might not be familiar with your business, can you tell us more?
My business is named Prophetic Sculpting Coaching. I coach women who unselfishly had to pause or give up on their dreams and goals to be the best wife, mother, and caretaker. Coaching is not the same for every person and what sets me apart is that I am the very client I serve. I know what it means to operate in depression so well that people never hear your inner cries. I know what it means to be to be dying on the inside and too afraid to let others know. I know what it means to overcome an abusive relationship. I know what it means to be a rape survivor. I know what it means to lose a parent and its alters your entire life. I know what it means to contemplate suicide. I know what it means to dummy down to fit in. At the end of the day my transparency is my strength that draws people to choose me to be their coach. I am most proud of my ability to forgive those who have hurt me and to show them love. Unconditional love along with compassion and grace for others is easier said than done. In December 2014, I was blessed to be a co-author for a book entitled, Things I Wish He Knew. That book freed me from years of bondage. I am excited about the women I will have the opportunity to serve as their coach and the ability to watch them as they propel into their greatness.
How did I get to where I am today business wise and was it easy? Creating a business is easy especially because I have been a consultant for the Small Business Development Center in the past. What makes this business different is that I had to live and grow through different obstacles, and challenges so as I coach others there will be an ability to provide coaching on a more advanced level.
Lessons I have learned along the way include:
• Create time and do not make time for self-care.
• Do it afraid.
• If you are the smartest person in your circle, you need to expand your circle.
• Remain teachable.
• Ask for help.
• There is always a positive in negative situations. My perception is my reality.
• Your gifts will make room for you.
• Smile, laugh, and enjoy life as much as possible.
• Stay the course.
What I want the world to know about me, my brand and my story is that our goal and purpose is to help women not only identify but embrace their re-route. It is important to know you are valuable, you have a voice, and your dreams are important. You cannot pursue your purpose in your comfort zone, Speak it, Create it, and Propel into it.
Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
When my best friends come to town I will take them to Blue Ridge Mountain for a girl’s weekend in a cabin with a masseuse and a chef. I would not let them know where we were going. The week would be filled with different things scheduled. Horse back riding one day, visiting a wine brewery, sip and paint in the cabin, water games, and a hiking excursion would be on the agenda. The meals will include different themes each night including a seafood paradise for the day, the Jamaican experience, Vegetarian meals with a twist, everything on the grill, we would make different types of pizza one night, finally, we would have a free for all and request our favorite foods from the week. The deserts with be different types of fruits until the last night when we would have a celebratory cake. The outdoors has so much to offer, and the location would have a pool and jacuzzi. It would be a week to rejuvenate and recenter. No children, no spouses, just a week where my girls come first. I would end the weekend also by giving them a self-published book reminding them about the importance of them creating time for self-care and the opportunity to breath.
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
There are so many people who deserve a shoutout but I have been blessed with a set of people that I can entrust with every aspect of my vision and they pray and speak life into all of them. God first because he created me for this business along with my 6:00 AM prayer group led by my Aunt, Pastor Brenda McGirt, My Dad, Charlie Smalls, my brother and sister-in-love, Derwin and Denise Smalls, my entire Middleton and Smalls family, my mentor, Cicley Gay, my accountability partners, Teresa Jones Poole, Liberty White, Chryste Middleton-Shakir, Mavis Hall, Darion Smalls, Derwin Smalls Jr., D’Jon Smalls, Tracy Lefebvre , Kim Howie, Naima Johnson, Marq Overton, Dr. Mickey Parsons, and Dr. Richard Shook.