We had the good fortune of connecting with Naketa Ren Thigpen and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Naketa Ren, how has your work-life balance changed over time?
I went from working 16+ hour days, across 3 jobs, while working on my doctorate degree and raising a family to jumping into entrepreneurship that had me initially working three times harder, before I really re-evaluated what balance meant to me.
It wasn’t until I divorced myself, those old hustle habits, the mentality that working harder would help me create happiness and started reparenting myself so I could grow into the woman I am today that values my time, energy and joy.
Once I decided to do that, I was able to create a formula for balance that works for me and eventually would help 100’s of my clients, B= T/Bo. True work life balance is now about admitting the truth of what I really want and need and creating boundaries for me to achieve that truth as a reality while keeping unnecessary distractions out.
Its ultimately become about what I’m willing to create to thrive vs simply accepting to survive.
What should our readers know about your business?
My husband and I co-own the premier personal development company supporting power couples striving to live fully, ThigPro Balance and Relationship Management Institute.
We focus on being an exclusive go-to sacred space for growth, vulnerability, balance and relationships that are unbound by limitations and amplified with intimate solutions for powerful problems.
Power couples and married women entrepreneurs seek us out because they are exhausted from creating wild success in their business that has left very little energy for passion and intimacy in their relationship.
Although there can be physical repercussions in their bedroom activity, most of them are actually dealing with challenges caused by the lack of emotional intimacy. If we don’t catch it fast enough, this could quickly look like mundane, roommate-like interactions that make them feel disconnected and disengaged from the core of who they are not only as couples, but as individuals.
Our ideal clients are ready to prioritize their relationship with the passion and intensity that allowed them to create their success, but they do not want to sacrifice anymore of their personal freedom in the process. That’s a t-shirt and ball cap they’ve bought and worn out too many times over the course of their lives.
Our company is 10 years old and I’ve been a working in the human behavior and relationship field for well over 2 decades as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker specializing in Trauma, Sexology and Relationships prior to entering into the coaching world and infusing breakthrough success coaching techniques into our core tool box.
We’ve learned that in today’s climate of leaked tapes and clamoring for 15-minutes of fame on IG and TikTok, etc, we owe our clients vulnerability, more than promises of NDA’s. Our client experience is intimate, private, customized and sacred. We don’t record sessions, secure our virtual session rooms, and have a created a need-to-know only team culture. Most of our team members and staff don’t know who our private clients are and that’s on purpose! The black book is kept close to the chest for ultimate privacy.
Power Couples work with us privately in 1 on 2 advisory sessions, and also receive 1 on 1 intimacy 360 sessions to recalibrate the power dynamics and do the deeper healing work. We tap into the person inside the professional with a mix of techniques pulled from our Joy Map Method. Whether we are working with the couple or simply the individual, we look at intimacy from a 360% lens that begins with understanding the narratives that are driving behavior, then re-scripting them to serve who that person or couple wants to become. In our world, we call it the 10.0 version of themselves.
Although we do offer a few limited annual private advisory openings for individual women (and a few brave men) who elect to do self-healing work without their forever love, most of the women who enter our ecosystem our anxious to get started with their next level of personal growth even when their lovers aren’t. Because they are best served inside our Unbound Brilliance Lab, which is a whole success incubator tailored to provide both community and solutions specifically for married women entrepreneurs, we guide all our clients to the program that fits their growth and transformation goals and not towards our highest service level.
None of this was easy to arrive to. We failed more times than I can count. Both my husband and I both had to do our own work, get real with what our personal blocks were, address those gaps in our relationships that caused us to sync into a wave of acceptance that being two passing ships was necessary when in fact, it doesn’t have to be. We are a true product of our own product which allows us to be compassionate instead of preachy when reviewing candidates to work with.
One of the biggest lessons we learned along our own journey is how much we don’t NEED each other, we WANT each other bad enough to invest in us by inviting change to sit at our table instead of resisting it when it knocks on the door.
We learned to lean in to what works, modify what simply needed a little tweaking to work better and delete the rest from our old perspective of outdated expectations. Example, although my husband is co-owner and shareholder, lends us his creative expertise along the way, he’d be the first to tell you that he doesn’t work “in the business”- it’s not his preferred playground. I’ve more than accepted that it was one of the areas we needed to modify for our own work/life balance, I suggested it.
I’d like the world to know that if you want something bad enough to get uncomfortable not just enough to get to it but enough to amplify your access and enjoyment of it, you’ll be victorious. That’s our brand story in a sentence.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
Hah! So my first recommendation is always going to be my house. There’s no turn up better than the one you can have when you can’t take off your mask, kick off your shoes and lean into real friendship, non-judgmental conversation, good food and plenty of laughs.
After we’ve gotten settled in with all of the above, then we’ll head out to Suraya Restaurant in the Fishtown section of Philadelphia for some yummy chic Lebanese food and experience.
Off to North Bowl in the Northern Liberties section (just a mile over) to work off some of that yummy food before we head right down the street to South Jazz Kitchen in the Spring Garden neighborhood of Philadelphia for music and southern cooking.
Clearly, we love food in this circle!
Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
Oh wow, there are definitely multiple people I could shoutout and thank from the core of my soul! If I’m forced to narrow it down to one person, it’s going to be my mother-in-love, Viola Thigpen. She’s been in my life since I was 13 years old, nurturing me, holding me accountable to being greater because of and not just in speight of circumstances, fussing me out when I needed more than gentle feedback and of course, she birthed my forever lover, Kardin Thigpen, who’s challenges me to live more fully every day.
Other: Free Facebook Community> “Certified Selfish” https://form.jotform.com/www.facebook.com/groups/certifiedselfish/ Survivor memoir and Personal Transformation Story> Selfish: Permission to Pause, Live, Love and Laugh Your Way to Joy http://bit.ly/SelfishBook