Meet Christina Carter | Registered Nurse

We had the good fortune of connecting with Christina Carter and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Christina, is there something that you feel is most responsible for your success?
The most key factor behind the success of my brand is the healing process of those who attend “Stain on My Fence” events.

Alright, so let’s move onto what keeps you busy professionally?
I have been a Nurse for 15 years and a Psychiatric Registered Nurse for 4 years. I have worked at several psychiatric hospitals across the country. During my time at these facilities, I gained the understanding that we all are “stained” by something in life. It taught me not to be so quick to judge someone on where they are in their life and on where they have come from. I am most proud of my “Never Giving Up” attitude. I got to where I am today by not settling and being another “statistic” as a divorced single mother of five kids that gave up on life.

It has been through my own “trauma” and “stains”, that have gotten me to where I am today. Although, I could not understand the “why” at the time that I was experiencing my trauma, I now have a better understanding of what God was doing in my life during those times. My character was being built so that I would be a non-biased vessel toward those I meet and to be an ear to those hurting when no one else was listening. I was also preparing to aid in the healing process of myself as well as others.
My first experience with trauma or my “stain was as a six-year-old girl that was sexually abused by a family member. I did not understand why I was making the decisions in my life relationally until I became an adult who had been sexually abused. I was always choosing the wrong or unhealthy partners.

When I was being abused, I did not have the courage to tell my parents what was happening to me until I was an adult with my own children. Why did it take me so long? My answer to that is I suppressed this emotion to keep what I thought was “peace”. Not to mention I grew up in a time when your mom called you “fast” for every little thing that you did that didn’t model being a lady.
My second stain occurred in 2006 when I lost my best friend and brother at the age of 35 on his birthday from AIDS. This devastated me and completely changed the dynamics of my family unit. My mother mentally left and never completely returned. This resulted in behaviors from her towards me that were unacceptable. I was told that my sexual abuse didn’t happen if my mother didn’t have knowledge of it. However, the paint is still wet on my fence concerning that topic.

My third “stain” was in 2015 when I lost my second brother to cancer. At this point, I became increasingly emotionless.
My fourth “stain” was when I lost my father, my oldest brother and my mother within a 5-day span in August of 2021 to COVID. It was shortly after this tragedy that the official “healing” and start of “Stain on My Fence”, began.

I began to ask God why me, why is this my life? I remember it like it was yesterday. In April 2022, I was on a Nursing travel assignment in California and God gave me “Stain on My Fence”. He said, “you are not the only one that has been through trauma and others want to talk about it just as you do”.
I decided to start a platform where “adults” could now talk about what was going on in our homes. It was because of what we could not talk about as children that has caused those children to turn into adults that have built up trauma and emotional “stains”. The now adults act out the unhealthy trauma patterns in relationships, at our jobs and in our friendships.

When you attend a “Stain on My Fence”, event you will have a choice of four different canvases to choose from. The reason for this is your trauma does not look like my trauma. So, we should not be painting the same thing. I am in no way an artist and this is not your typical paint and sip. This is a platform and safe space to have difficult conversations about our “stains”. As we begin to heal through painting and talking.

None of us has a white picket fence!!! We all have a “Stain on our fence “.

Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
I would take them to a concert at one of the many venues. We would also enjoy brunch on one of the serene rooftops in the city for drinks and amazing cuisine. We would then take a stroll on the belt line and “people watch” as we walk and talk and catch up on life. We would finally take in the beauty of the Atlanta Botanical Gardens and hang out and have a picnic.

Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
I want to shout out to my children, Amber, Elizabeth, Samuel, Mackenzie and Gregory for putting up with the unhealed version of me. They believed in me and never gave up on me even when I wanted to give up on myself.

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