We had the good fortune of connecting with Joyice Robinson Myers and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Joyice, is your business focused on helping the community? If so, how?
I partner with my clients to help decry the statistics that boast Black women are women of last resort. I constantly ask myself what kind of person I want to be with each new person I meet or new decision I make. I understand that helping others with practical and meaningful impact creates a certain level of kindness, goodness, and peace that fulfills me in a novel way. The more decisions I make that create impact, the more community I inherently build. Trained as a professional educator, I spent years not only teaching students but also supporting their families. It did not take long before I realized that my community, largely African American, was not always equipped with the knowledge and resources to create or maintain stable, healthy families, so I began to fill in the gap.
In the beginning, it started out with psychological nuggets and truths I had learned in human behavior from my studies and other professional experiences. Over time, I began to nurture valuable change in my students’ lives with their families. As those students grew up, they continued to seek my counsel in basic relationship-building skills to connect with others, create community, and build their own version of family. Along the path of my life and career, I began to share these same truths with women as it related to them healing familial wounds and entering relationships and/or marriages where they desired to start or bridge a family. My advice impacted women’s lives so greatly—whether through a minor change like learning to enforce a personal boundary or, alternatively, a major change like preparing them for a romantic relationship—that these communities encouraged me to formalize my work into a mainstream service.
Today, I have learned much about the state of the Black family and the plight of Black women seeking love and life partners. As a Black woman who understands the dating and relationship landscape, I cater my content to Black women who want to level-up their relationship skills towards exclusive relationships, long-term partnerships, or marriage because this need was the greatest and I was the most successful with them. My work helps Black women to feel connected, empowered, and confident in their relationship choices and practices in a way that protects them from prematurely or unwisely interacting with men. As a result, my clients experience freedom, safety, and provision in dating and relationships in ways that they have not experienced prior to my coaching. I constantly receive emails and messages from clients who are filled with gratitude for my work because of how impactful it has been in their lives. I receive it all, from the “you saved my life” cries to the “you’re the reason I am in a safe, steady relationship” confessions to the “I am a better mother because of you” notes. My work and my team are concerned about the future of the Black community at large. Together, we add strength and health to Black relationships, marriages, and families.
What should our readers know about your business?
There are two main features to my coaching style that sets me apart from others. First, I recognize that many women do not desire “marriage” as the end-all-be-all. While I am available and experienced to help women marry when they desire it, I focus more on helping women explore and discover the relationships they do want, and I guide them to arrive there. In my relationship coaching experience, many Black women just want safe and secure relationships with available (Black) men—whether they marry or not. I am here to support them in that journey.
Second, many coaches who support women with their relationships have a hyper focus on navigating dating (and sometimes dating alone). My approach is to offer women real-time, involved expertise and support to advance their relationship goals and milestones employing a trajectory I help them design for the love lives that they want. In my industry, I am known for helping women to navigate and negotiate their needs and desires with men—not exclusively managing the dating process.
I am most proud of my clients and their rebirths! They are the ones doing the real and sometimes uncomfortable work to be the women they want to be and create the lives they want to live. I have witnessed them evolve, mature, and transform into new levels of womanhood. My client-turned-mentee, Vanessa Y., has the most stunning transformation to-date. She has “grew up” with me and has become a better woman, mother, friend, and romantic partner. I love her! Now, I am most excited about the wedding invitations and travel invitations I have for 2022. My clients want me to see them get married or they want me to meet their support circles and spend time with me. It deeply warms my heart!
I have always had a heart for the African American community and largely served them in my former role as a teacher. By the age of 33, I found myself in the midst of a divorce and teaching was no longer a sustainable career for me. Between my mother’s trusted guidance and my own temporary despair, I leaned on my feminine intuition and academic training to relearn myself, love, and marry again. I designed my own signature strategy, Match Marry Mate™, to rediscover myself and choose my life and love partner. My course teaches this same strategy to Black women.
I have learned so many lessons and I have reframed much of them into one as my personal guiding philosophy: Humans are not one thing and we do not have it all figured out. Instead, we grow as we go®! It is okay to not know it all or have it all. The answers literally come as we evolve and relearn ourselves.
I want the world to know that Match Marry Mate™ is a dating and relationship coaching suite that honors the whole woman and uplifts the village. We are committed to the future of Black families and seek to support women as gatekeepers of culture, memory, and legacy.
Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
Some of my favorite spots in Atlanta are in the Old Fourth Ward! For exploration and the outdoors, the Atlanta Beltline is my mainstay. I also like to visit Ponce City Market, enjoy tacos at Bar Taco (with key lime pie in a jar), or dinner at Two Urban Licks. There is still a “hidden” speakeasy in Old Fourth Ward. It’s forbidden to tell where it is Atlanta, and I cannot break tradition; but ask around while you’re out and you’ll find it. The best place in the city for a doughnut is Revolutionary Doughnuts—there vanilla bean glazed is delicious! One of my go-to dance spots in the city is Tongue & Groove, especially on Salsa night. For a breezy Sunday, brunch at The Southern Gentleman or breakfast at Gocha’s followed by pampering at IWI Fresh with a drive-in movie at Starlight will do you right! I fancy drinks on the rooftop at Hotel Clermont after a visit at Atlanta History Center—the Swan House is its secret gem. And just because, the wings at Dugan’s are the best and stop by Tassili’s for a raw vegan wrap. Yum!
Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
A major shoutout is due to my husband, Jeremiah! His support and insight have greatly blessed my life and allows me to pour into my community more and more.
My sons, Jalen & Jaden, are my heartbeats and the reason I do what I do. I want stable Black families for them and I am here to do that work and lay what foundation I can as a template and legacy for them.
A big shoutout goes to my mother, Marie Robinson, for teaching me, inspiring me, and being my biggest cheerleader. I have witnessed her as a coach in teaching girls about etiquette and womanhood during my younger years. Her presence has played a role in how I show up as a coach in my work and for my clients. Thanks, Mama!
Finally, I want to give my flowers to all my clients—especially the very first Match Marry Mate™ cohort and my #1 fan, Portia Obeng!
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